People all have different characters, not only because they are all individuals, but also the environment that they grew up were totally different. The family are the two main reasons that build people’s personalities step by step. The family, the education and friends are the first teachers of child, which might be more influential than teachers in school. The education before school shapes the base of “self”. The combine of education and friends will both develop one person’s personality by time.
Since children come to the world, children spend their majority time to stay with their parents. So all the stuff that kids know from the conversation between parents before 6 or 7 years old. Mom and Dad usually are the first words that children could pronounce, the reason of that is parents keep teaching that! Mom and Dad are the most frequent words parents repeated in front of babies. Which caused the first pronounce might be mom or dad. Based on that result, children learn a lot of things from parents, or on the other way, children copy the way of parents acting. All the stuff from parents are the key element to shape the self.
Education and friends usually work together, because before the personality become stable, people spend most of time in school. So people have such a educational environment, they have teachers to teach them and they have friends to communicate with. Teachers usually tell students what is right and what is wrong, those kind of general ideas and also the way of thinking. Teachers help students build or develop the idea of self, so children can be more mature in the common sense. Friends usually play as a group, once people are in certain group, eventually they will be effected by their friends. Sometimes, good friends can be a guide of one person’s life, or tutor; bad friends can change one person’s personality very easily, bad friends can lead a person to the hell. During teenage time, teachers and friends are both very important element to shape the self.
Parents make the base of children’s personalities, teachers and friends both effect the base of personalities, and start to shape the self on the same time. There are the three main reasons that shape the self of me.