Initially, Everyone lived in their own world——it’s just more comfortable. We started in mama’s belly, despite that some of us happened to share it with their twins. After nine months, you must agree it was quite frightening at first to come out to a complete different world. This world is not just ourselves being protected in a warm environment with plenty of food any more.
At the beginning stages, the “other” shape ourselves with a lot of judging. “Your kid is so cute!” is mostly what I heard people saying to babies in this country. It is very different from what I have experienced myself from back home. “Her skin tone is so dark!” “Her eyes are so small””What a shame that she doesn’t have double eyelids.””Hopefully her nose will grow taller when she grows up”…… Since a kid, I’ve heard too much of people judging the way I look with their own expectations. And that did shape me. I was really confident with everything else in childhood except from my look. However, once I was smart enough to figure out what those bullshit really means, I became 120% satisfied with myself.
Moving alone, we encounter people within the same situation —— our peers. Although we are supposed to be pretty much the same, we still strive for differences. That’s why there are great collaborations in every field. Through working with my peers, I further learned about my own strength and weaknesses in a very fair way compare to the previous paragraph. We as human beings, also have the great ability to learn fast from each other. Parsons’s in class critics are great examples. Our peers and instructors are literally helping to shape us by pointing out what’s working and what’s not in our works.
I believe there are way more to be found on this topic as I go further in life.
