There is a famous Chinese proverb says, “He that lies down with dogs must rise up with flea”, which means that, what kind of group of people you meet can affect you to be alike them. The way “the Other” shape the “self” is by letting the “self” gradually get used to their way to talk, their living habits, and even their behavior. After the “self” gets used to all those personality, “the Other” is kind of shaping the “self” into how they look like. For example, when your friends are all hard-working, you must be hard-working as well. This is because you stay in the environment of hard-working, and it is hard for you to be lazy since it might probably be weird when you act unlike most of the people you know, and vice versa. In this way, a group of “the Other” creates its unique environment to affect the “self” and shape the “self”.